Pre-Committed Relationship Assessment

rightrelationshipWARNING- This assessment is for new or pre-committed relationships only. If you are married or in a committed relationship please take our Relationship Assessment for Committed Couples  If you’re unsure of the status of your relationship please review our Relationship Status Questionnaire.

This confidential online 30-question assessment will provide a comprehensive review of the important areas of your pre-committed relationship along with general recommendations.

Before you make a commitment is the time to be completely honest with yourself about whether this is the right relationship for you. If you settle for less, you get less, and your life and relationship will suffer if the relationship isn’t a good long-term fit for you.

Time Required: 10-15 minutes
Results Delivered: Immediately upon completion and by e-mail (requires entering your e-mail address)
Confidentiality: Your results and e-mail address will remain private and will not be shared without your permission.
Instructions: Read and respond to each question, selecting Next to submit your answer and move to the next question.
Take your time, check in with yourself, and try to be completely honest with yourself about each question.

Is This the Right Relationship for Me? Pre-Committed Relationship Assessment


1 of 30: Would I want to spend the rest of my life with this partner exactly as they are?

2 of 30: Would I want this partner to raise my child?

3 of 30: Would I want my child to be exactly like this partner?

4 of 30: Do I want to rescue or “help” this partner because I see their potential?

5 of 30: I love the way they look or their status and it builds my self-esteem to be with this partner.

6 of 30: We have some important things in common and so I’m avoiding looking at glaring differences.

7 of 30: This partner appears to be totally different than people I’ve been with in the past.

8 of 30: I’m focusing on one important quality (money, sex, fun, humor, etc) and ignoring unmet requirements.

9 of 30: This partner reacts to frustration with anger, rage, and/or blame.

10 of 30: This partner blames others or circumstances for his/her life situation.

11 of 30: This partner tries to control everything, including me.

12 of 30: This partner is/can be immature, impulsive, and/or irresponsible.

13 of 30: This partner is/can be emotionally distant and aloof.

14 of 30: This partner appears to be still pining for a past relationship.

15 of 30: This partner appears to want me to make their sad or problematic life better.

16 of 30: This partner is married or otherwise unavailable or unwilling to commit to me

17 of 30: This partner has an active addiction or addictive behavior (rationalized as “not a problem”).

18 of 30: I experience this partner to be pessimistic and negative about things that matter to me.

19 of 30: This partner appears to lack integrity (is sometimes dishonest) in dealing with people, money, etc.

20 of 30: This partner appears to have an overly judgmental attitude toward self & others.

21 of 30: This partner appears to be unwilling to self-examine, accept feedback, or take responsibility.

22 of 30: I can't depend upon this partner to keep agreements.

23 of 30: What this partner says about their self doesn't appear to match reality.

24 of 30: This partner appears to be on an emotional roller coaster and has recurring or regular emotional drama.

25 of 30: This isn’t what I really want, but I don’t want to be alone.

26 of 30: This partner appears to be changeable and exhibits inconsistent behavior.

27 of 30:This partner appears to be a poor listener.

28 of 30: I notice myself trying to change this partner to fit what I want, instead of accepting them for who they are.

29 of 30: This partner talks too much (especially about self) and monopolizes the conversation.

30 of 30: This partner appears to be overly quiet or withdrawn.

Is this the right relationship for you? Find out now! Enter your name and email below to get your results.

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